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Posts Tagged ‘Choice’

I am inspired to write this as I often hear people say they have no choice, yet this sense of choice or autonomy is a fundamental requirement for human happiness. The latest neuro research tells us that if we perceive choice, then our brains indicate to us that we are happy.

This seems quite simple and at the same time really hard to get right. How do we create choice for ourselves if we are in a system, a family one or an organisational one, where many decisions are collective and sometimes not ours? How do we provide ourselves the opportunities where we can sit in choice and decide what it is that we want and what outcomes we would like to achieve?

The starting point is to choose “choice”. It is an un-empowered mind-set that believes we have no choice. Choice is a state of the mind. Every minute, of each day, we are choosing how we think, feel and how we react to our world and the people in it. When we realise that choice is ours, our energy lifts and our sense of wellbeing increases.

When our energy rises and our sense of happiness and wellbeing increases, we are able to see many more perspectives and many different options, giving us even more choice.

Self-development is a life long journey. The minute you think you have achieved some form of emotional or psychological achievement; the next emotional wave of challenges gets presented to you. We learn through adversity and sometimes we learn during times of bliss. The important thing is not necessarily how we learn, but how open we are to learn and grow.
Being open to growth requires dedication, and the feedback we receive through various sources is a gift. So how can you capitalise on this gift?
By being conscious of the ego state pulling at us when the feedback is given to us, being aware of the human element of our judgement and by keeping a vigilant eye on those negative thought patterns already established in our brains, we can start to be more conscious about who we want to be, how we want to think and how we want to behave. The choice is ours. It requires courage to be bold enough to create that freedom of choice and the sense of autonomy for ourselves in everything we do. We create our reality through the way in which we think. The quality of our thoughts determines the quality of our lives.
Being present, being aware of what is happening around us and within us, gives the opportunity to reflect on the feedback that is there for us to use and grow.